Getting the Love You Want

The bestselling guide to transforming an intimate relationship into a lasting source of love and companionship, fully revised with a new forward, and a brand new chapter. In Getting the Love You Want, Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen Hunt offer the relationship skills that have helped millions of couples replace confrontation and criticism with a process of mutual support that facilitates healing and growth at any stage of a relationship. This extraordinary practical guide describes the revolutionary technique that combines a number of disciplines - including the behavioural sciences, depth psychology, social learning theory, Gestalt therapy, and interpersonal neurosciences, among others - to create a program that transforms conflict into creative tension that deepens connection and renews passion. In a new forward and chapter, Hendrix and Hunt offer a new perspective of what a relationship is and where we should focus our attention and energy. Reversing the assumption that prioritises the individual, the authors show how tending to the needs of the relationship first will ensure that the needs of the individual are met. By shifting our conversational methods away from negativity and towards affirmation, a safe and encouraging environment is built that reduces anxiety and allows couples to thrive. The chapter also includes practical exercises - proven invaluable in couple’s therapy - to achieve the goal of intimate partnership full of life, joy, and wonder.